I feel therefore I am. Am I what I feel I am? For only as long as I feel I am. What am I feeling right this very moment? I feel sadness. I could ask myself why I am feeling this sadness, but does it really matter why I am feeling sad? I am feeling sad. How do I deal with it? I acknowledge my feeling of sadness. It exists here in the now, no point to try and deny it for then I would simply repress it. No I welcome it as I would welcome feeling happy. I therefore neutralise it. How do I feel when I feel sadness? I literally feel like I am contracting myself into my body. In auric terms, your aura 's field would have a reduced range. My body feels as if it in turn wants to curl up. In short I feel like I want to withdraw quietly somewhere.
You can see from the above how much our feelings influence us in the now. If you are feeling sad you are not inclined to make active contact, it prevents interaction with the outside world, which in turn can have far reaching effects on your life itself. So it is with all feelings we feel. We are brought up in a culture that always has to blame someone for anything that is "wrong". Someone makes us angry, someone makes us sad, someone makes us joyous, and someone makes us love. Someone or something, always something external to us. This reasoning would make us feel pretty powerless to control our feelings or deal with it in a healthy way. Always something or someone external, so we are in fact saying that we have no control over feelings.
External events, things and people merely activate certain feelings in us. How we react to our feelings are based on past experiences. I read in relationships.blog-city.com that we "love what someone makes us feel." Someone can trigger in us certain feelings, but how we react to it is up to us. We can allow our habitual reactions to follow its predictable course or we can decide to react differently to it. I find it interesting that in studies on Lucid Dreaming, it was found that;"…to our brains, dreaming of doing something is the equivalent to actually doing it. This finding explains why dreams seem so real. To the brain they are real…Indeed, since dream activities produces real physiological effects, lucid dreaming may be useful for facilitating the functioning of the immune system." Exploring the World of Lucid Dreaming - Stephan La Berge @ Howard Rheingold
This has always been maintained by the Shamans, who uses a technique called "dream weaving", to change the outerworld. If you can change a dream, you can also restructure the patterns that gave rise to it. You can heal the outer world by changing the inner world. The same applies to feelings. First think of something in your life that brought you sadness, feel it as clearly as you can, observe how you feel. Now, think of a very sad scene in a movie that you saw, observe how you feel. There is no difference how you feel whether it was imaginary or real. The body makes no distinction between memories regardless of the source. For the body, the ones that are most real are the ones with the greatest sensory impact.
Many studies have shown how our outlook on life influences our health. Negative feelings effects our health negatively, no matter how it was caused or whether we are aware of it doing so or not. In the world we live, we are constantly reminded that ignorance of the law does not free you from the penalties you have to pay for breaking it. We can choose how we deal with our feelings. Do we repress it, let it control our lives, and us or do we learn how to release it safely? So we decide that we want to change our ways, be more conscious citizens of the world, but often you just find yourself with nothing but a feeling of quilt for not being able to make it happen. We become stuck in wanting to change but not being able to change, a cycle of quilt.
"Whenever you welcome the way you feel, whenever you allow it, you're embracing a natural way of letting go of wanting to change it. If you've been willing to let go of wanting to change both how you feel and the circumstances in your life, you should now feel calmer, more relaxed and centred - and more able to go out and actually change things. This is truly the key to serenity." The Sedona Method - Hale Dwoskin
It has been said that advanced human beings do not stop feeling emotions as we do, they just return to the calm centre quicker than we do.